This thread focuses on online dating usability, privacy, real users. I asked the same thing because it is hard to tell whether a platform is actually active or just full of empty promises.
For most people, the decision comes down to whether the app is active enough and whether it feels safe to browse. I also pay attention to how much personal data the app asks for at signup, since privacy matters more than flashy branding.
At this point I just want a place where I can browse, message, and leave without a bunch of pop-ups or fake urgency.