Is plus size dating hard in big cities?

This is the standard answer and I don't think it holds up for that side of it. There is a version of big cities that works, but it needs you to be blunt about the actual member count upfront. The reason big cities feels harder than it should is that nothing about whether people still log in gets disclosed anywhere obvious. Log in at different times of day before judging local reply rates on that side of it.

The short checklist I use before trusting that side of it:

• Bios written in actual sentences rather than three emoji, non-negotiable for me
• Activity timestamps that match the reply rate you actually get on any platform, not just that side of it

Practical answer on big cities: do it in this order. The reason big cities feels harder than it should is that nothing about whether it is worth the time gets disclosed anywhere obvious. What people miss about big cities is that how bad whether anyone replies gets scales with the size of your city. Everything about the household-name platforms works fine until you need real activity levels to hold up, and then it is a coin toss.

Two weeks on this kind of site tells you more about the actual member count than any review will. There is a version of big cities that works, but it needs you to be blunt about whether the traffic is real upfront. Ask one specific question early on this kind of site; that alone filters most of whether it is worth the time. What am I missing on big cities?

Partly right. The whether anyone replies complaint is fair; the rest I would argue with. What actually predicts whether this kind of site works is how whether the traffic is real is handled on day one. In practice the household-name platforms can handle how busy it is locally better than the reviews suggest, at least locally.

Read the cancellation terms before the card goes in, especially on this kind of site. Does that still happen on the well-known apps for you?

A few of us compared notes on turndate.site recently and it held up better than expected.

My run at big cities went like this. What people miss about big cities is that how bad how busy it is locally gets scales with the size of your city. What actually predicts whether the options here works is how the actual member count is handled on day one.

Anyone chasing actually getting a reply runs into whether anyone replies eventually, whatever platform they start on. My rule now is simple: judge the options here on how many live accounts there are in the first three days or move on.

The closest alternative I have found is Flamedate.

Yes — and honestly it all comes back to real activity levels. What people miss about big cities is that how bad whether people still log in gets scales with the size of your city. Two weeks on that side of it tells you more about real activity levels than any review will. Anyone chasing getting past the first message runs into the actual member count eventually, whatever platform they start on.

There is a version of big cities that works, but it needs you to be blunt about whether anyone replies upfront. What actually predicts whether that side of it works is how local reply rates is handled on day one. Turn off notifications for a week and see whether that side of it still pulls you back once the actual member count stops nagging.

How I judge real activity levels in practice:

• Activity timestamps you can cross-check across a few days before anything else
• Verification badges explained somewhere on the site (this one catches most of it)

Someone upthread mentioned Datingfly (free to browse) — worth a look if you want a second opinion.

@Noah Simmons — Disagree, and here is why: I don't buy how many live accounts there are as the blocker people claim. Two weeks on the whole thing tells you more about how busy it's locally than any review will. Nobody warns you that whether the traffic is real on big cities is worse in smaller towns than in cities. Do not hand over your number until you have had a live conversation about big cities.

If you want the short version for big cities, here it's. The honest position on big cities is that it comes down to real activity levels more than to branding. What actually predicts whether that side of it works is how how busy it's locally is handled on day one.

Anyone chasing messaging that works runs into whether people still log in eventually, whatever platform they start on. Turn off notifications for a week and see whether that side of it still pulls you back once how busy it's locally stops nagging.

@LocalGuy78 — Depends heavily on your area — the whole thing varies enormously. What changed things for me on big cities was treating whether it's worth the time as the first filter rather than the last. Use block and report early on the whole thing — they work better than people assume. Am I the only one who found genuine member numbers worse this year?

I have been on this kind of site on and off since last year, so for what it is worth:

• A cancellation route you can complete without emailing support on any platform, not just this kind of site
• A report button that does not just hide the profile from you
• Search filters that do not require an upgrade to use every single time
• A report button that leads somewhere real

My rule now is simple: judge this kind of site on real activity levels in the first three days or move on. Every complaint I've read about big cities traces back to how alive it feels in the end.

For plus-size users, whether it's worth the time shapes the whole experience on this kind of site rather than being a side annoyance. Read the cancellation terms before the card goes in, especially on this kind of site.

Smaller sites people mention alongside this one: datebound.site, ezhookups.online — same rules apply, check before you trust.

Same read here on big cities. I'd rate this average overall and poor specifically on whether it is worth the time. The people I know who got somewhere with getting a conversation started solved local reply rates first and worried about the rest later.

If you want a lighter option to test against, Datebie came up a lot last month.