This thread focuses on online dating usability, privacy, real users. I asked the same thing because it is hard to tell whether a platform is actually active or just full of empty promises.
For most people, the decision comes down to whether the app is active enough and whether it feels safe to browse. I look for moderation, clear reporting tools, and some kind of identity or age verification before I trust anything.
At this point I just want a place where I can browse, message, and leave without a bunch of pop-ups or fake urgency.